Taming my Stickler

One thing I value immensely is personal growth. Growth tells me I’m moving forward; I’m not static. It assures me I’m on the right path. There was a time I didn’t value learning or growing. Learning new things was stressful. It meant feeling and (probably) looking foolish while I figured it out. This was one of the ways I was too hard on myself. Somewhere in these years of facing fear and practicing courage, I’ve discovered that it is fun to learn. It is empowering to face fear and overcome it. For me, learning is about facing fear and conquering it. I know I’m growing when I’m willing to try new things. When I’m on that path, I know perfectionism has loosened its grip and that’s worth celebrating!

If you follow my blog regularly, you know I’ve written about perfectionism before.

This week I tried something new – a growth spurt! I was invited to be on my first podcast. When asked something like this, I’ve learned to pause, check in with my values and say “yes” if things align (even if it makes me nervous). I agreed to be on fellow coach, Charlie Jett’s podcast. Charlie Jett is a graduate of the United States Naval Acedemy, has his MBA from Harvard Business school, has written 3 books and is a certified coach. He wanted us to discuss the Stickler, a PQ coaching version of the perfectionist. I figured I had lots of personal examples to share and share them I did! I hope you’ll listen. The podcast is 23 minutes. True confessions, I was nervous at the beginning, so the first 3 minutes are a bit stilted. If you push beyond those, you’ll hear us talk about the biggest lies the Stickler (Perfectionist) tells me, what it costs me when I don’t shut it down, the impact the Stickler has on my performance and happiness and what I do to help myself when it is active.

Do you think you might have a Stickler saboteur? You can take the free assessment and find out.

This Week’s Photos

I’m an amateur photographer. This week, my photos celebrate growth – more mushroom pictures!


I coach people who are too hard on themselves to go from stressed to refreshed by giving them the volume control on their inner critic. You can connect with me here, learn more about coaching or about the 6 week mental fitness course.

Sue Das, CPCC, ACC, CPQC, B Soc Sc (SW)

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