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This week I was challenged by one of the most compelling eulogies I’ve ever heard. I was at once amazed by the brilliant craftsmanship of the writing, the outstanding life of the man it described and the overwhelming feeling that no matter what I did, I would never be able to live up to this standard. It created in me a longing to live a life that could be described as a legend, remarkable and epic, all the while knowing that I could never live the life this man lived or have the impact he has had. I wondered what I would want people to say about me at the end of it all.
I am not adventurous or wild by nature, both words that also described this man. The word wild reminded me of a quote from a book I just read, Glennon Doyle’s Untamed. This book is another brilliant piece of writing. I could quote something from almost every page. Part of our taming as humans happens when we use something to dull our sense of boredom – phones, food, TV, and alcohol are some things that come to mind.
“That was tragic because inside the itchiness of our own skin is where we discover who we are. When we are bored, we ask ourselves: What do I want to do with myself? We are guided towards certain things: pen and paper, a guitar, the forest in the backyard, a soccer ball, a spatula. The moment after we don’t know what to do with ourselves is the moment we find ourselves. Right after itchy boredom is self-discovery. But we have to hang in there long enough without bailing.”Untamed by Glennon Doyle ( page 81)
Itchiness is not only created by boredom but also by uncertainty and the upheaval of routine. One of the great opportunities of our time is self-discovery. Amidst all that is changing, we have the chance to figure out who we are and what matters to us individually and collectively. Created by our uncertain times, the fluidity allows (even compels) us to ask of ourselves questions like, what would a remarkable life be like? What are the words I would want people to use to describe me at the end of my days? What is the impact I want to have in the world?
“He made me feel relevant and important, and like anything was possible.
The real world in all it’s wonder sparked a million mystical and magical thoughts in him.”Quotes from the eulogy of John Leach written by Emma Leach
This Week’s Photos
Seeing things in a new way and appreciating overlooked beauty are two things that I value greatly. I express that in part through one of my hobbies, photography, but it’s also one of the reasons I love coaching. I get to look with a fresh set of eyes. I get to find and share the unseen and unappreciated in people. If you’d like to experience seeing yourself in a new way that celebrates who you are, I’d love to talk with you about coaching.
This week’s photos are in honour of real-world magic and mystery, and learning to see things in a new way.