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Perhaps life should come with a safety announcement like the one you receive when boarding an aircraft.
Turbulence seems to come at the most unexpected times. One can be figuratively flying along through life’s calm skies when suddenly, for no apparent reason, the flight is no longer smooth. The thought of always being prepared – with seatbelt buckled, keeping safe – is appealing at first. It’s appropriate when flying, but does it work to live with the anticipation and expectation of trouble? Somehow the thought of keeping buckled continuously and prepared for turbulence seems like it would come with its own set of problems. These thoughts take me back to an earlier time in my life when being emotionally and physically safe was a high priority. There are crisis times in life when this is entirely appropriate, but mine was not a crisis – just a way of being. In focusing on safety, one would think feelings of peace, security and relaxation would be prominent in one’s life. After all, you’ve taken all kinds of precautions so that you are protected from the vague sense of threat that permeates your life. You’ve put things in place to minimize potential turmoil. It’s safer. It helps you to feel calm and relaxed, right?
My own experience with this tells me that the more I focused on safety, the more I was filled with fear and paranoia. There was no peace, no calm, no time to relax. I was always on guard – alert, thinking and protecting myself. With safety first, the only way forward was to make my life smaller and smaller – take fewer risks, have fewer interactions with others, stifle anything in me that was not entirely safe. At least I felt like that was the only way forward. It turns out that on a starvation diet of safety, I slowly became a shell of a human.
My journey has been one from fear to freedom. I’ve learned to unbuckle my seat belt, figuratively speaking, because most of the time life is about living not about keeping safe.
There is no greater threat to the critics and cynics and fearmongers than those of us who are willing to fall because we have learned how to rise. Brene Brown
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This reminds me of a line in a song I once heard and really identified with. The line said something like, “You can’t really live if you’re worried about dying.” Something like that. I can relate to that feeling of always wanting to play it safe. Sometimes I would (and still do) look at others who continue to move forward joyfully, in spite of what looks, to me, like a scary situation. And then I wonder what all I’m missing out on. Thanks for this message, Sue.
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I don’t think it’s an all or nothing thing. There are plenty of areas where I feel I’m living bravely and others where I am still playing it safe. I’m sure it is the same for you. It’s never helpful to compare with someone else. It normally leaves you feeling bad or wanting to put the other person down to make yourself feel better. I try to encourage myself to make one courageous choice every day – those choices can be small things like talking to someone new or being honest with yourself. Wishing you strength and courage for your journey forward!